Effortless Love

What I’ve learned about my relationship with myself by having a relationship with other people and my advice to girls (and guys) trying to love themselves.

Imagine a life where there’s love, joy, and peace. Imagine a couple where those things are effortless for them. Now imagine that one of them is you. For me, a happy life was hard to imagine. I’ve learned that my problem is that I block my own blessings. Somewhere deep inside me I believed that I am not deserving or worthy of love. I couldn’t imagine being happy or being with someone who makes me happy. I was subconsciously sabotaging my relationships by not being positive about the outcome. I worked hard for love when it should have been effortless.

“Love them. Adore them. Make them feel like the most special person in the world. But never forget you deserve the same thing.” -The Better Man Project

You Deserve Love

Everyone needs and is deserving of love. It is not needy or attention seeking to believe so. It is not a weakness but a strength to admit what you need. Boldly proclaim to people what you need from them and don’t settle for anything less. I never imagined that I could even be liked by another individual and when it did happen, I started to realize I deserve better. The problem was that I didn’t even like myself and that’s why it was so hard to imagine anyone else doing so. When someone didn’t see my self worth, I had to see it for myself. When I realized someone couldn’t give me what I needed, I had to walk away.

“At some point in your life, you’re going to have to start demanding what you deserve and be willing to walk away if what you require can’t be provided.” -R.H Sin

Know your self worth and find someone worthy of you.

Today, I see how strong, confident, and amazing I am. I love every part of me and I don’t mean it in an arrogant way, but in a way that allows me to appreciate myself in order to find someone who also appreciates me. You don’t find your worth in another person but in yourself and then you find someone who is worthy of that. I’m intelligent, determined and anyone would be blessed to have me. You have to believe you’re the prize and other people will too. Learn to love yourself or nobody will. At Least, not in the way you deserve.

“The only thing between you and big love is your belief in your worthiness of it.” - Kristin Lohr